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veg: my actual experience. Part II - Organizing

"But your as they took?"

is the question I hear from those who do often find that they are veg, as I do not know, I got to sleep on the mattress or to participate actively in the coke party.

My experience is that, in a nutshell:

my parents took it well.

My father still looks suspiciously what I eat, of course replace the meat with another is disgusting and unreliable. But I do not take it, it is customary limits of all webs. However, he does not complain of my choice, until his plate is what we say him (it seems to me fair and democratic)

My mother was now very cooperative. The trick was to ask advice: for the library where I work has brought a number of unquantifiable recipe books, articles from magazines.

My boyfriend appreciates my ethical reasons but he is also wary of the "presumed goodness of veg dishes" and sees them as yet but a pale imitation of the healthy and ethical food containing animals. However, in his distrust, sometimes a fork from my plate of breaded seitan and olives if you pull it up unceremoniously. ;)

But I know that many are less fortunate, who have to suffer resentment, sets and musi long, and when it gets worse even ridicule at home.

Regarding the choice veg out, I'll talk about in the next post, I would now like to deepen the veg in the house or otherwise "for themselves."

1. Telling family If there is an argument lost cause if taken with aggressive and polemical tone is precisely this choice of vegetarian food. Simply because those who deny you the part that is already prevented an odd choice, to be "against" his confidence and expectations (ie: having a child or a friend who eats like you is far less problematic. It calls into question nothing and does not upset any balance-mixed.) So I say to those who have just decided this way: Do not quarrel. E 'useless. Do not shout, do not dilungatevi speeches in the other person does not want to stay there to hear. Just do it: Eat what you like. Respond politely "I do not want to eat animals, not for me." only the truth, without laces and turns of phrase useless and irritating to someone who is already irritated.
2. Applications alarmed: no anxiety, please.
   "The meat is ! The fish contains phosphorus! And if you get some deficiency?" The force of rationality. Very simple also here: you do the blood tests and repeated six months after comparing any shortcomings (you really want to know one thing: I have not had any. But I have halved the bad cholesterol.) Say it with no problems and this question will be anxious "corked". "And the lunches from relatives?" E 'no doubt: the family is no exception, needless to say. However, we are vegetarians. Answer that "you will see" and that in any case it is very well organize. Indications: for now is not the time to address the issue. Unless you have decided to become vegetarian December 24 (you have a sense of opportunity a bit 'weak, I had never told anyone?) "And if you get sick and lose weight too?" Reassure not without a chuckle funny that the stereotype of veg is suffered from waaay over time. Maybe showing a book of tasty recipes veg bought before the announcement of a family of your choice.
3. cuisine.
   An important issue is the ' organization of the kitchen. Needless to say, if you have encountered hostility in the family, the first thing they will do is attack with idiotic excuses, such as an unwashed pan or all of the vegetables consumed by you, or your refrigerator clogged food. Or your mother or your partner may be offended if your turning the dough with dirty the fork of their sauce, will paint your face a deep grimace of disgust. So, as regards the tools of dirty animals, put it clear , peremptory but gentiles (the tones are very bad football as I said in similar predicaments) and for the kitchen ... should be a bit 'of planning.
   you do my example in my home to have dinner 20. The kitchen is not great and it hinders us in 2 each other. It follows that if I start at 20 to stay in the kitchen while my mother tries to prepare his dinner and my father, I take the pain in the ass vegetarian (because I take the space to prepare my own sauces) I mean, look and organized to avoid if your meal, at least in its preparation a different time from that of your family. I cook 19 to 20 and before the kitchen is always free. Do not leave dirty dishes . We get some pushy and selfish "that there is only you." Not to mention that your mother might want to use the same pan, but if you leave it greasy and wash is not very nice, no? So whenever prepared a dish washing bowls, utensils and cutlery in the kitchen so that everything is dell'onnivoro arrival impeccable. you do not give excuses for complaints: this is a golden rule.
4. spending
   Now, I know vegetarians who complain if the mother had bought them bread trunk with lard, others who are protesting because their house mother does not want to cook vegetarian meal. It 'clear that a whole family would be great to veg, but we must be pragmatic: we should start with ourselves, in the meantime. So you just do Séderon heavy, and let us cook our dishes. All learn, I learned that even I do not I pushed myself beyond the pasta in butter. The same goes for shopping: you can not expect your mother to read all the labels for you. Go to the grocery store, look around, read the labels you, after you aware of what are those codes and the names behind the unlikely packages. In short, be active in your choice, 100% active and present.
5. non veg cooking for others?
   One issue not by anything. Some ask, "But you cook for your boyfriend / girlfriend to your parents the meat?" My answer is no, but I know many vegetarians who do. It 's a very personal and subjective choice. You can not expect anything in neither one nor the other way.